September 24, 2008

What Should We Do About Negative People We Love?

In This Issue:

Feature Article: "What Should We Do About Negative People We Love?"

Quick Tips: "Some People Say This Is The Biggest Motivator..."

Myth Buster: "Is Public Speaking Really The No.1 Fear?"

* FEATURE ARTICLE *

“What Should We Do About Negative People We Love?”

As we pursue success and happiness we soon realize the importance of surrounding ourselves with other successful and happy people to support and inspire us forward. And, on the flip side, it's also important to minimize contact with negative people who complain, whine and generally bring us down.

But what if some of these people are our loved ones? What if they are our parents, siblings, children or spouse? And what if, despite their negative natures, we really do love and care for them, and want to keep them in our lives?

While I still think it's crucial to limit your exposure to negative people - and that may mean making some tough decisions - I suggest three ways to actively keep these loved ones in your life, whilst maintaining your own positive attitude:

1. Look at your relationship with a negative loved one as a means of strengthening your character and 'emotional armor'. Life won't always be easy. The emotionally tougher you are, the better able you'll be to deal with life's challenges.

2. Be a giving person. Giving is not really about giving to someone who 'deserves' it, or is likely to say 'thank you', or will give you something in return. Giving is about putting yourself out, of making some kind of personal sacrifice, WITHOUT any expectation of how the recipient will or won't receive your gift.

For example, when a negative loved one unloads on you, you are giving them the ability to transfer their negative energy to you. That's a true gift and shows selflessness and caring. Which leads me to my third suggestion...

3. Be prepared for your negative loved one to NEVER appreciate your gift. That's right, they may never appreciate what you've done – and continue doing – for them. But you know what? If you feel you have helped them even slightly... and that you are a better person for giving them your time, attention and love... that's all the reason you need to continue doing so.

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* HIGHLY RECOMMENDED *

“How To Publish Your Own Successful Email Newsletter”

I was going to write a report on how to publish a successful email newsletter.

After all, I've been publishing Success Accelerator for about a year and a half now, and prior to that, I wrote 3 weekly newsletters for my previous Internet business. So I reckon I've learned a thing or two.

But Kevin Riley has beaten me to the punch!

Kevin, who's a good friend of mine, has just produced a report" Recipe For Delivering Your Own Popular Newsletter" which pretty much covers everything you need to know about publishing email newsletters, autoresponder series, and promotional emails.

So I'm not going to re-invent the wheel... get Kevin's report instead:

==> Recipe For Delivering Your Own Popular Newsletter

* QUICK TIPS *

“Some People Say This Is The Biggest Motivator...”

There's a view that more people are motivated by what they DON'T want than what they DO want.

Actually, I bet that even those of us who think we're motivated by achieving success, rather than avoiding failure... are still significantly driven by moving away from what we don't want.

If so, let's use this to our advantage.

When you know you should be taking action but just can't muster up the motivation... and when visualizing yourself sitting on your yacht cruising the Caribbean (or whatever constitutes your vision of success) just doesn't seem to work... think about what NOT achieving your goal would mean. Picture how your life will be if you DON'T take that action.

If that doesn't incite you into action... maybe you don't really want to achieve the goal you think you want to achieve.

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* HIGHLY RECOMMENDED *

“How Insiders Get The Jobs They Want...
...And You Can Too!”

Studies show that 50% of all new jobs go to "Insiders"...

Not just existing employees, but people who BECOME insiders by taking a somewhat different - yet much more effective - approach to getting the job they want.

Despite this, most books, career counselors and recruiters keep telling us to apply for a job using the conventional, "Outsider" approach!

Fine... if you want to join the long queue of people waiting to get in the "front door."

But if you want to slip in the "side door"... not settle for any old job... and land the job you REALLY want, click here to find out how:

==> Discover How To Get The Job You Want

* MYTH BUSTER *

“Is Public Speaking Really The No.1 Fear?”

You've probably heard the claim - that most people fear public speaking more than death. I have two
objections to that claim:

1. What body of research backs up this claim?

The next time someone says public speaking is the number one fear ahead of death, ask them this: what is the body of research behind that theory? Chances are they won't have a clue. They'll probably just say 'I heard it'. (Oh... so we should just believe what you heard?)

2. If it does exist, I'd love to see the research that started this myth.

Was a statistically relevant sample of the population (i.e. thousands of people) actually put in a situation where they were given the choice between speaking to a crowd of people and dying?

As horrible as that sounds, that is the only kind of research that could validate the theory. Everything else is a 'simulation' and, in my opinion, could never come close to finding out how someone would really feel if they were given such a choice.

Let's put this myth to rest, folks. Public speaking might be scary... but it's not THAT bad.

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