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January 17, 2007 How To Avoid Being a "Stress Sponge"In This Issue:Feature Article: "How To Avoid Being a 'Stress Sponge'" Quick Tips: "3 Tips For Building Rapport" Fast Facts: "Who On Earth Drives On the Left Hand Side?" “How To Avoid Being a 'Stress Sponge'”When people share their problems with you... do you soak up their stress or let it flow through you like a sieve?If you're like many of us, you tend to soak it up. Sure, the person "unloading" may feel much better after talking to you... but they've just unloaded their worries on to you! How do you know whether you have a tendency to be a "stress sponge"? Easy. If you tend to feel stressed, frustrated or generally down after someone has discussed their troubles with you... you're a stress sponge. While it would nice to be able to tell you to be a sieve instead... that may not be realistic. In fact, it may be BECAUSE you empathize so well with others -- because you can "feel their pain -- that people deliberately tell YOU about how bad their lives are, rather than anyone else. Well, it may be good for them... but it's probably not good for you! Not if you're constantly soaking up other people's stress. I am by no means suggesting that you shouldn't be a friendly ear, or that you shouldn't be there for others in need. Not at all. But not everyone deserves your attention or empathy. Those who consistently "dump" on you... who don't really care about your feelings or how their negative talk affects you... just don't have the right to push their stress on to you. I suggest limiting your exposure to people like that. Even cutting them off when their negative talk goes on for too long. They're abusing your trust, and, if anything, impeding your ability to give enough attention to those people who are genuinely having it tough and need your support. Not to mention impeding your ability to enjoy the good things in life! * HIGHLY RECOMMENDED * “Internet Marketing... The Not-So-Obvious Truth”If you sell online, or plan to sell online, Armand Morin's report "An Obvious Truth" is a MUST-READ. In particular, if you're a bit confused about how to sell on the Internet, this report will clarify a LOT of things for you. The report is FREE and you can download it here: “3 Tips For Building Rapport”Here are 3 tips for building rapport with someone...1. Find something in common - not only does talking about something you're both familiar with make for easier conversation, but people tend to like people who are like them, so see if you have something in common to chat about. 2. Take an interest in their interests - even if you don't have much in common, people naturally seek and value the attention and approval of others. If you take an interest in their hobbies, passions, accomplishments, etc they'll appreciate it. 3. Compliment them on what they value - again, people seek the approval and admiration of others. When you compliment them on the cute pictures of their kids, or their diplomas hanging on the wall, or their stunning new car, you give them that approval and admiration... and they'll like you more for doing so. Just one thing: BE GENUINE when you apply any of these tips. Nothing will destroy a relationship faster than insincerity. * HIGHLY RECOMMENDED * “FREE: Discover The Top 7 Secrets Of Building Wealth”(And why many financial planners will never be rich...) ==> Top 7 Secrets Of Building Wealth “Who On Earth Drives On the Left Hand Side?”Surprise, surprise. About a quarter of the world's population drive on the left, not the right, side of the road.Countries where people drive on the left are: Anguilla |
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