February 28, 2007

Does This Offend You?

In This Issue:

Feature Article: "Does This Offend You?"

Audio Interview: "How a Young Mom With No College Degree, No Business Background and Two Young Kids Built a Successful Internet Business From Home"

Food For Thought: "Do You Really Need To 'Think Positive' To BE Positive?"

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* FEATURE ARTICLE *

“Does This Offend You?”

What I write in this newsletter may sometimes offend you.

I don't want to offend you... and I try to write things in an inoffensive way... but then again, I don't know how you will take what I say.

And, on the flipside, I might find something you write to me - or something someone does or says - offensive. Even though you or they intended no offence whatsoever.

So what is going on here? What is being offended about anyway? Are we surrounded by people who are rude, lack manners or have no understanding or caring for our well-being?

Or are we sometimes overly sensitive?

And is feeling offended a useful, productive emotional state to be in... or is it a huge waste of energy that leaves us feeling drained and unhappy? Does it help us move forward or does it hinder our success and happiness?

In a few weeks time you're going to hear an interview I did with Rachel Goodchild.

Rachel is an author and motivational speaker who is just plain AMAZING. Frankly, what she shared with me during our interview left me spinning with wonder, excitement and joy long after our talk. I am truly looking forward to making this interview available to you.

Anyway, Rachel said one thing during our talk that I couldn't wait to share with you. It's basically this:

When someone offends us by what they do or say (or fail to do or say) it's NOT necessarily because:

• They did anything "wrong"...
• They intended to do anything wrong...
• They knew that you would regard what they did as being wrong...

OR

• They knew that you would be offended by what they did...

The reason we are offended is often because someone:

Did not behave the way WE believed they should have behaved.

You see, we've all developed expectations about what others should do or say (or not do or say) in any given circumstance.

• We may expect a teenage boy to offer his seat to a pregnant woman...
• We may expect a client or customer to say "thank you" after we deliver our product or service to them...
• We may expect our friend NOT to make unflattering comments
  about our brand new home...

But are our expectations reasonable?

You might look at these examples and say, unequivocally, "yes".

And even if people are not aware of social conventions, then they should make an effort to learn them, right?

Perhaps. But at the end of the day, feeling offended uses up a lot of OUR energy. WE'RE the ones who feel bad. And what for?

I mean, if someone hurts our feelings, why not take the view that it probably wasn't intended and let it go?

Or if you feel you must do something: DO IT and release those negative feelings!

Instead of stewing over something someone said or did, tell them that they hurt you... or, if you doubt they'll ever change their ways, DECIDE to minimize contact with them from then on.

But then accept what's done and move on. For YOUR sake.

Now, I hope I haven't offended you, but if I have, write to me! Get if off your chest and let me know what you think.

Not only will it give me valuable feedback... but it will do YOU a lot of good too.

Just don't waste any time being "offended" - it only harms you by putting you in an unnecessary, negative state of mind.

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* AUDIO INTERVIEW *

“How a Young Mom With No College Degree, No Business Background and Two Young Kids Built a Successful Internet Business From Home”

	It may sound like a cliché... but that's because it's true!
	Candace Gill is an inspiration to everyone with the urge to succeed but lacking the "conventional" resources to do so.
	In this interview you'll also discover:

• How Candace got started on the Internet and ended up turning her passion for Internet marketing ebooks into a fully-fledged membership site that made money from the get-go.

• How she was able to persevere despite family and friends not
  taking her or her online business seriously... to the point where Candace now employs her husband and is advising local businesses... all at the ripe old age of 23!

• Why "making money while you sleep" is REAL! Candace does it every day and in this interview she reveals how.

• Why Candace is so excited about the Internet - according to her, none of us have anywhere near tapped its full potential, nor have we tapped OUR potential to build a successful Internet business.

• How Candace's Internet business has not just helped her grow professionally, but also personally and spiritually.

• How Candace has been able to build an enormously successful Internet business... despite having no college degree, no business background, and being a young mother of two, working from home.

• And more!

==> Interview with Candace Gill Part 1

==> Interview with Candace Gill Part 2

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* FOOD FOR THOUGHT *

“Do You Really Need To 'Think Positive' To Be Positive?”

Do positive people really spend all day visualizing their goals... repeating affirmations to themselves... and reminding themselves to "think positive"?

Or are they just naturally positive, upbeat people? People who just tend to see the "glass half full"?

In my experience, they're both. Or should I say, some positive people use techniques such as visualization, affirmations and positive thinking... while others are blissfully unaware that they *should* be visualizing, repeating affirmations or thinking happy thoughts!

Consequently, I DON'T believe you MUST do any of these things to be a positive, happy person.

By all means, use these techniques and whatever else helps you feel good.

But let me also give you another idea.

You see, I know of a group of people who are constantly brimming with energy... who are excited about each day... who long to learn and challenge themselves... and who are loving of themselves and others.

Sure they have their ups and downs, but in general, a day won't go by without them spending a LOT of it smiling, laughing and making the most of what they have.

Who are these special people?

Well, you know them too: their called CHILDREN.

Now, I know - due to various circumstances - not all children are so happy.

But energetic, happy kids are what I see when I visit my daughter's kindergarten. And I'd wager that the average child is predisposed to be happy.

Do kids go around visualizing, repeating affirmations and thinking positive?

I suppose, in a way, they do... if you count imagining fairies and super heroes... repeating the lyrics of a Wiggles' song, and having a can-do attitude about going down that slide. Wheeeeee!

But they certainly don't have to remind themselves or make it a point to do any of that.

Okay, so you're not a kid any more. How does this observation help you?

Well, let me plant an idea in your head:

Forgive the cliché (oops another one!), but what if, inside you, there is a positive person yearning to get out? The person you were when you were born and eager to walk, talk and learn more about the world?

What if... being a positive person is not so much a matter of thinking positive, but a matter of shedding the negative conditioning that has wrapped itself around you since you were that happy, positive child?

What if... you could be a positive person simply by not thinking negative?

In other words, you don't think negative thoughts, you don't "make yourself" think positive thoughts... you just enjoy life as it unfolds. Is this possible?

This isn't just food for thought... it's food for discussion too. So write to me and share your views!

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