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August 27, 2008 How To Deal With LossIn This Issue:Feature Article: "How To Deal With Loss" Quick Tips : "When SHOULD You Pass The Buck?" Fast Facts: "Hands Up Who's Left Handed?" “How To Deal With Loss”No one who has experienced a tragic loss in their life is likely to ever "get over it".No positive thinking, affirmations or meditation are likely to ever make up for the grief felt by those who have, for example, lost loved ones in the most tragic circumstances. The only thing we can really do is live with the pain in such a way that the pain doesn't prevent us from enjoying a fulfilling and rewarding life. It may sound naive to suggest that it's possible to have an enjoyable and rewarding life following a huge loss... but there ARE people who manage to do so. They haven't "overcome" their grief. They haven't stopped feeling pain. But many will say that time IS a healer and that channeling their grief into something positive has substantially helped to ease their suffering, and enabled them to pursue a life worth living. So how do they do it... and how can you and I do it? I doubt there's a "one size fits all" formula for dealing with loss, but here are three tips based on my observations and experiences: 1. Allow yourself to feel the pain. Give yourself permission to have a good cry. You may even want to schedule some time e.g. a solid 15 minutes each day to spend grieving. As funny as this may sound, by permitting yourself to grieve you get to release negative emotions that may otherwise blacken your entire day. You also assuage any guilt you may be tempted to feel if you don't spend some time reflecting on your loss. And once you've had your grieving time, you have the rest of the day to feel good about life. (It's a psychological trick... but it may just work!) 2. Channel your grief into something positive. We've probably all heard about people who have started support groups, or set up charities, or lobbied for change, etc as a result of the loss they've suffered. Doing so is arguably part of dealing with their loss, and helps give some purpose to why they were forced to endure the tragedy they did. 3. Discipline yourself to focus on the good. It can be pretty hard to see the good in life when terrible things happen. And even though you may logically understand that there are good people and goodness in the world, that doesn't mean much when you are in the grip of feelings of anger, sadness and grief. That's why you may need to "force" yourself to do things you enjoy, spend time with good people, and, in general, do things that make you feel good about life. I hope tragedy never strikes you, but if it does, try applying these tips. Let me know how they work out for you. * HIGHLY RECOMMENDED * “WARNING: Read This Book Before You Look For a Job...”"What a great book! Anna has given me ideas and strategies that I would never have thought of....EVER. Which probably also means that no one else will have thought of them either. I know for certain that if I follow the principles of this book, I will have a distinct advantage and edge over everyone else. There are some amazing strategies in this book, such as: changing how you think about what you "want", great resume writing ideas, interview strategies/techniques and how to target key decision makers in ANY company to get that job. My personal favourite is the "Job Fulfillment Description" on a resume. I had never heard of this until I read this book and I think that most employers would be blown away when presented with this technique. Thank you Anna for writing such a great book. I plan to keep this book for a very long time and keep it for my children to read when they are ready to enter the workforce. I recommend this book to anyone who cringes at the thought of going to work or who has a dream job in mind." -- Cathy Shier, Thornleigh, NSW, Australia Download Anna Johnson's unorthodox, yet highly effective, job hunting guide, Insider Job Secrets. Click here: ==> Insider Job Secrets Revealed “When SHOULD You Pass The Buck?”Believe it or not, there are some situations in which you SHOULD pass on responsibility to someone else - or "pass the buck" if you will.There's a reason for having hierarchy in organizations - those in upper management are there to make the tough decisions, the decisions others are neither responsible, nor paid, to make. And although modern management theory emphasizes the idea of empowering people at all levels to make decisions and be accountable for those decisions... there are always circumstances when a decision should and must be escalated to someone higher up. If in doubt about whether the buck stops with you or someone else... just ask. There's no shame in asking about whether a decision is yours to make, or should be made by someone else. * HIGHLY RECOMMENDED * “I Quit!”Is this something you've been meaning to say to your boss? Yet, right now, it's back to school and back to work for many people. And back to the realization that there MUST be a better way to make an income and enjoy a more fulfilling life. Like working at home in a business or job you LOVE. It's not as far-fetched as you might think. In fact, you CAN work at home, make loads of money, and have the lifestyle you want. Not through any scams or schemes. But by choosing the right work at home opportunity for YOU. And to help you do exactly that, The Work At Home Bible is a must-read: ==> Claim Your Copy Of The Work At Home Bible “Hands Up Who's Left Handed?”Apparently, 1 in 10 people are left-handed...Left-handedness is most common in males; and left-handedness is more likely among children of left-handed parents. Two right-handed parents have a 9.5 percent chance of raising a left-handed child... a "mixed" couple has a 19 percent chance... and two left-handed parents have a 26 percent chance of having a left-handed child. (Source: "Left-handedness and your health", Paging Dr. Gupta Blog, CNN.com, August 13, 2007, http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/blogs/paging.dr.gupta/2007/08/left handedness-and-your-health.html) |
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